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Saturday 13 April 2019

Fair Warning ...




There is a change in the wind here in the blogging world of NJ and Frank so I thought it best I give my readers and fellow bloggers a heads up ... a fair warning, if you will ... 

One of the first things I noticed when I landed as a reader here in Blogland, was the varied levels of intimacy with which the bloggers wrote. When writing about such intimate topics as spanking and sex, the writing seemed to go from one extreme to the other. When I became a blogger myself, I had to decide how intimate my own writing style was going to be. I struggled with this for some time and so did my newbie blogging pal, Windy ... we had quite a few email conversations about it all ... right down to us wondering how the use of profanity would fly. 

Whenever I talked to experienced ttwd bloggers about it, the advice was "it's your blog, write as much or as little as you wish ... be yourself" ... and yes, I got that. I was absolutely planning on being as true to myself as I possibly could and I think I have been. However, say that as often as you will ... there still is an audience out there that cannot be ignored. I decided to err on the side of caution and keep my writing rating as PG as possible - given the subject matter at hand. 

After a year of developing our DD dynamic, Frank and I have begun reconnecting with our D/s side, melding it even further with our DD dynamic. In doing so, we realize how meaningful our D/s side is to us - how much we've missed it. This re-connection has found me exploring other areas of Blogland. I've found long time married D/s bloggers who write about their lifestyles. Their stories have me as interested as I was when I found the DD blogging world. I've also found bloggers who have projects such as the Tell Me About Dominance and Submission ... projects that connect bloggers across blogland by gathering various posts by topic, across a spectrum of ttwd lifestyles. I have written a couple of posts for the Tell Me About project and I'm looking forward to exploring other linked blogging project opportunities.

I have been giving a lot of thought lately, as to what my new discoveries and any resulting changes in writing style or topics might mean for my blog. Frank and I enjoy this little corner of the Blogosphere and all the friends we have made here. I don't want to lose readers due to change and I don't want to lose the feeling of community we've found here. On the other hand we are all adventurous adults (or we wouldn't be here) who are perfectly capable of closing a page if we find something that isn't to our liking. 




For myself, I have always viewed change as a chance for renewal. With new horizons in sight, I feel I can let go of my self imposed PG filter, and paraphrasing the favourite caption above ... 'write like there's nobody watching' ... well, except maybe Frank :>)) 

That said, if I do write something that is out of your comfort zone, I hope you will close that page but still open the next post. In between the serious and sexy, you can be sure there will be a post where Frank will say or do something totally off the wall and I will be on the floor laughing, as usual. Whatever direction we take our ttwd life, our sense of humour will always be a reminder to never take ourselves too seriously ... 😉

nj & Frank

23 comments:

  1. I have a very PG blog myself- I do NOT live a PG life. Not that I suspect many of us do. B has discovered over the last year or so that he is a Sadist but I don't write much about that as he comes and goes with it in our dynamic because it is a lot for a person to come to grips with (him not me). Anyway I read far beyond the commentors of this corner of blogland and embrace many aspects that fall in the D/s BSDM area. I for one will not be closing your posts should you decide to go there.

    Good luck writing more of yourself unfiltered.
    willie

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  2. OHHHHHHHH nj -- definitely 'write like there's nobody watching!!!' We are all adults and can move on and come back at will. There are one or two blogs I read that sometimes shock me - put me outside my comfort zone -- but I always come back to read the next time.... I think it's my natural curiosity -- what works for others -- how others describe events etc.

    I have always been a bit shy about writing about the more intimate stuff that goes on around here... it may not seem it on The Journey -- but behind the screen I am wondering if my language /choice of words/phrases will upset someone ..... or turn into porn fodder for another......

    Trust me when I say .. I doubt very much you will write something that will send me screaming off into the great black hole (grinning)

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    1. I don't think I was worried about you, Morningstar :>)) ... and yes, even with a PG filter, there are times that 'Publish' button is hard to push. I'm not sure how much my writing will change ... I just want to be able to allow myself to change if I need to ... nj ... xx

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  3. NJ: you should enjoy whatever you write, and write whatever you desire. I am shy on the sexual side of writing, and maybe this will be liberating for many of us.
    Have fun, and looking forward to reading the new and improved living a loving life. (however, my comment swill not be there for a month, as we leave on vacatin for a month next weekend.
    bottoms up
    Red

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    1. Thanks, Red! ... wishing you and Cindy, Bon Voyage ... wherever it is your new travels may take you! .... nj

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  4. NJ.... I'm going to be giving the same warning on my blog soon. :) We've been really getting into D/s, been on a BDSM site that really promotes Dominance and Submission, and it's really getting us to a new place. I am glad you guys are finding what makes you happy. :) :) I can't wait to read what you share, because I'm loving the journey we are on, and can't wait to hear about yours. :) :)
    Hugs, EsMay

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    1. I'm happy for you, EsMay ... that you and Duke are finding new paths to explore. New discoveries often bring exciting times ... hugs ... nj

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  5. NJ,
    I am actually looking forward to see where you will go next. It seems these relationships are never static. Who would want that anyway? I encourage you to dance stark naked if that is what you want to do. I find you a genuine, sincere, and thoughtful blog friend, and I doubt that will change due to sharing what makes you and Frank happy.

    Here's to Trying Something New!
    Ella

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    1. Thanks, Ella ... for your understanding and encouragement ... no naked dancing happening here ... and don't be giving Frank any ideas :>)) My only concern about this post ... is that nothing will change and everyone will be disappointed ... haha! ... nj ... xx

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  6. Woohoo! My comfort zone is wide and deep - here's to new adventures!

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  7. NJ,
    Interests change and new opportunities come your way. Safe travels as you explore. Be careful and know we are right here.
    Meredith

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  8. It is your sense of humor and your candidness that keeps me coming back... how is that lawncare going, anyway? ;)
    Amy

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    1. LOL, Amy! ... the mower still comes out everyday, rain or shine ;>) ... that was one of the most fun posts, ever, to write :>)) ... nj

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  9. Hi NJ, I too initially struggled over what level of intimacy and detail I wanted to write on my blog and my posts were PG. I love that you and Frank are exploring and that you are finding different areas of blogland.

    I have always enjoyed visiting here and look forward to reading more :)

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Thanks, Roz ... I'm not sure how big a change there will be ... I just wanted to give myself the freedom to expand my writing if I needed to ...

      You are a kind and loyal reader to all of us here ... I always look forward to your comments ... hugs! ... nj

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  10. I enjoy reading your blog, nj. Write what you want, I won’t be needing the smelling salts!
    Rosie xx

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    1. Haha! ... thanks, Rosie ... I'm pretty sure nothing I can write will faze you ... nj ... xx

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  11. It's been like a pendulum for me, i swing back and forth depending on my mood i suppose. it's good to have the "fair warning" post - i'll be looking forward to continuing reading here!

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    1. Hi Fondles ... I expect there will be a mix here as well ... nj

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  12. I figure that I keep my blog as PG as I personally am. And I am not PG all the time. Not in the use of profanity, or in the activities I enjoy. While some posts may be PG, some may not be. I try not to be overly graphic just for the sake of it, but we're all adults here, right?

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